Do you have a problem and want to talk about it?
-tell me in confidence, i will try my best to answer
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Everyone thinks me and one of my guy friends are dating. I was able to laugh it off at the start but now when ever we're just talking people will talk about us and they've even told some of the teachers in our classes that we're dating. I can take the teasing but it's just so annoying! How do I convince them we aren't dating?
Not that big a deal but it's getting on my nerves.
>Dear DarthRevanShepard
People can be so fascist when it comes to things like 'boy-girl' friends.
A boy and a girl can be really close and friends without being in a relationship, its just some people have different views on this matter. For example, they may believe that a man and a women can only be together if they are in a romantic partnership each other.
If the teasing is strongly annoying you, you could always report it- only on serious cases though (I don't think you would class this light teasing as bullying)- if you feel sensitive about the issue though.
Another thing you could do is talk to these people about the teasing. If you have stated vehemently to them that you and your friend are not dating and they still carry on, you could ignore them (You are above their silly little taunts. So what if they think you're dating this boy- if you show you don't care, and it's having no effect on you, they should grow bored.) or you could handle the situation by asking a teacher or another friend. Rise above it.
Just make sure you don't resort to such lengths as ending your friendship with this boy- that's the last thing you want to do. Just because people say somethings true, doesn't mean it has to ruin a friendly relationship between two people.
Don't worry about their immature attitudes, because you're the one who will come out of this situation better.
If you want to ask anything else- feel free to ask
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Mein Gott, is every other poster on this board a therapist?
Not that I personally object, mind, but the sheer density of advice threads around here is starting to get rather amusing.
@ Iaculus I thought that...I think a few need to be deleted...Is that even possible on this site.
there does seem to be alot of advice threads, and theyre must be a way to moderate a board somehow... I have nothing against offer your advice (as ive often done it myself) but there seems to be mass amount of the same thing
I try to help people out with their problems. I'm not saying I'm special or anything but i do give honest advice out to people who may need it
I'm no therapist, I just like to help :)
How is this confident? it is on the internet loser!
Fine you want me to be a therapist?
>>8 I can see you're a very lonely person, who thrives on sending hateful comments, to make you feel better about yourself...I suggest you go away for a while and think about what you are doing
no way
There are loads of these advice things.
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agony aggie,
u r a peabrain wiht no respect for clever people like myself. you are a freak, you think this is in confidence do you? it is on the internet, everyone in the world can see it, IT IS NOT IN CONFIDENCE!!!! i would suggest something to you but u r not even worth writing anything down for. u r a freak and i bet u r really fat and ugly too. i hope u never find a perfect person to marry and it u r already married i no that soon you will get a divorce because u r a freak!!! a FREAK i say, yes i said you are a freak!!!
>>14 If you're going to insult someone, at least learn how to spell first.
Anyone who has the time to think up such a long-winded way of saying something reasonably legitimate (sadly, Ags, Anon has a point) is either completely sad or three years old. Calling Aggie a freak is, I'm sure, a fairly mild insult and not something she's likely to lose sleep over.
And you're clever, are you? Really? So clever that you couldn't be faffed going, getting a thesaurus and looking up all the synonyms for freak - instead, you figured you'd just overuse and abuse the word 'freak.' You're the freak, Anon, so get out.
>>14 Well it pretty much is in confidence, i mean, its not like we all use our real names here. Jerkstain.
Being fat doesn't necessarily make you ugly.
most people do actually use their real names!!! and bola, you just said being fat doesn't make you ugly, i bet u are so fat and u dont want people to know that is why you are saying all this rubbish about being fat doesn't make u ugly, yes it does and i bet u r ugly and fat and u stay inside cos u dont want people to know ! u r a freak and a loser and u suck!!!
>>16 Forgiven. It's usually a side-effect of me opening my mouth (not in a good way, either.)
@Anon: not on here, they don't. And Bola's right, being fat does not make you ugly. Beauty being in the eye of the beholder and all that? What's ugly to you might be beautiful to your mum and so on.
being fat does make u ugly
Guess what Anonymous?
You fail. Now go crawl back under your rock, little troll, nobody wants you here. If you are as "smart" as you say you are, then you will take my advice.
>>19 I was also confused too. I took your advice and went back and combed through that monstrosity of a post. It almost made me want to burn my retinas to remove its traces... I mean, c'mon. The repetition of the word 'freak' was way too much for my liking.
Moving on. I have a genuine question for you, Agony Aunt. It's not a particularly intimate one, so I don't mind it not really being in confidence anyways. Well, I'm in sixth form college at the moment, and I'm planning on going into medicine. However, I'm not sure at this stage if I'm going to have the drive to do it; you have to be very committed and I don't know if I'm going to have the determination to do it if I'm unsure about it at this early stage. I'm currently taking Biology, Chemistry, Maths and English Literature A-Levels, so I have a few other options, but I'm very confused. What do you suggest I do?
I may not be an Agony Aunt, but I would suggest that you don't ask the people here for advice.
Well, to be honest, I'd much rather go to my college's careers adviser, but they're not available until next week. I plan on going then but, in the meanwhile, I thought it might be interesting to see other peoples feedback on the subject.
excuse me i am very smart!!!
@ KiteRunner: I can't really give you any advise because, as Ellipsis said, it is not the best place to ask. (We don't know anything about your grades or how you usually fare in class.) However, I was a bit like you - took economics and other stuff in College to end up in English Lit' at Uni.
If you want to do Medicine, do it. You can always change if you really feel bad at some point, I guess. Sometimes, you go to Uni and at first, you don't know if you will be able to actually do it (my experience and POV).
E.g.: When applying to Uni, I wanted to do English and Japanese but the info' at my college made me believe that I couldn't take two languages (France sucks where Swiss Uni are concerned). So I took History, not really knowing if I'll finish my BA. And now, I can't stop.^^
It's alright to be unsure, but sometimes, motivation can appear all of a sudden because of the teachers, tutors or subjects themselves.
Again, I'm not an advisor, so... don't take what I say to the letter.
Anon, if you were so smart, why do I feel like your posts are but an extended version of the trash ones normally found on Youtube? Saying fat is ugly, calling someone a freak and so on... it doesn't make you 'smart'. After all, little troll, it's quite the contrary. Go and troll on youtube, you'll find a lot of people like you.
Note: Even using our real names, there are so many people having the same names in the world that you'd be hard press to find us IRL.
Thanks Tristana. I was just wondering if anybody with experience in the subject (people like yourself) had any tips they could give me, so what you said was helpful. I'm going to go and see a career's adviser next monday anyways, but I appreciate your feedback ^^
Oh, that was me just now. I'm on my brother's PC and I forgot to type my name in.
Heh, no prob. I don't know about actual experience.
Again, I just went by what my mother once said: Study what you want and if it goes wrong, you still can apply for an apprenticeship.^^
You're most welcome though. (Which other studies would you take if not medicine?)
Well, experience is experiance, no matter how you look at it!
Um, well, I'm not entirely sure. I can only really work with whatever subjects I've taken this year, so anywhere in science is my best bet. But, even then, I still haven't found anything that really appeals to me/stands out from the other study choices. I still have another year at college before I head off to uni though, so it's not like I'm pressed for time... yet.
You know, I knew in which Uni I would apply quite early but I chose my second subject when I applied. (I had no idea that I could have taken Japanese, learned it when I applied.^^)
And a lot of things can happen in one-two year/s.
Even if it can't be called advice, it's at least an honest opinion and useful so thank you anyway.
But yes, I've got a while yet to think long and hard about it before I go making any decisions, seeing as I will most probably change my mind at some point. In fact, for the last few weeks, I've had the idea of being an Army medic running through my head (now that you mention the Navy) and I thought I could do that for a few years before settling down a bit more and becoming a regular doctor/nurse/pen-pusher.
RayRay, you said that your considering joining the Navy, correct? Well, I'm not entirely sure what it takes to get an engineering-based career within the Navy, but you'll probably have fighting chance... (based on my limited knowledge of what engineering comprises of.) They could probably use people like you ^^
hello people, i am back again my fine ugly enemies, i dont really understand why you lot actually exist u r freaks
hello people, i am back again my fine ugly enemies, i dont really understand why you lot actually exist u r freaks
>>37
Quite impressed I stumbled upon a thread with Hunter S Thompson quote... back to topic now I suppose.
>>36 Freaks are an endangered species in the Age of Chav and Anonymice, therefore freaks are conserved. :)
>>34, hey. Have you come to more of a decision? I read through this thread (difficult to follow due to all the inane troll comments) but I would say not to worry too much about what you want to be, if you are only in sixth form. Even with a degree in a certain subject, you can still go on to do something totally different. :)
>>40 Um, I'm still unsure to be honest ^_^"
But you're right in saying that I have a while to think about it. All my A-Levels point towards SOMETHING in science so, as long as I do well in them, then I should have something to go on. I'll only have to start thinking seriously about it this summer...
Eeek. But thanks for asking :P
I don't need advice, I just don't know where else I could put this and it’s been bugging me all night.
There's this guy in my English evening class; loud, a bit obnoxious, always making sarcastic comments. When we had a substitute teacher once he wouldn’t stop hitting on her. I'm sure you all know the type.
Anyway the guy's a bit of a loner, though as far as I can tell he seems to get along with the others in the class. Tonight he was sitting in the back, by himself, with his MP3 player blasting. The teacher asked him a question and he didn't hear, eventually he realised and answered, then went back to listening to his music. The teacher made some flippant remark about being able to say anything while he couldn’t hear, then said, light-heartedly that he smelled (while the guy couldn’t hear).
The guy could tell something was up (I guess he thought he was asked another question), so he asked what, the teacher replied something along the lines of 'We were just making fun of you while you have your headphones on.' To which the guy frowned and said offhandedly that he didn’t need that, he’d had ten years of it.
The teacher walked back to his seat, sat down and a few seconds later must have realised it really was an inappropriate thing to say and he’d upset him, so he said ‘I didn’t mean anything by it.’ The guy just ignored him. He didn’t say another word for the whole lesson (which is unusual for him) and just continued working all through the break (again unusual) even when a friend waved in his face and said ‘Hello, it’s break,’ he just ignored them.
When the guy popped to the bathroom, the teacher asked his friend if he was okay, the friend said ‘He’s been like it all day; he gets a bit touchy.’ And it was left at that.
At the end of the class the teacher asked for a word with the guy before he left - obviously wanting to apologise. The guy replied with an emphatic ‘No’ and left.
I don’t know why it got to me so much, perhaps because I can kind of (in an odd sort of way) associate with the guy. Perhaps because it’s the first time I’ve really seen another side of him and it can be hard to imagine a guy like him being sensitive, but he obviously is. I’ve always got the impression that he’s an intelligent guy and if it wasn’t for the sarcastic quips, I’d probably say he was quiet. I don’t really know him, but I definitely get the impression that he’s taught himself to act a certain way to fit in better, and that makes me feel a bit melancholy.
Sorry for rambling a bit, I just needed to get that off my mind.